hi folks , I have a question for you : Do you forgive easily or do you hold grudges when someone has hurt or upset you ?? As we know to err is human, to forgive is divine... But if the pain is difficult to bear, how can you forgive and forget easily ???
you are right we can never forgive .. and this is my worst atitud too , I can tell to the one who hurt me it's ok , nevermind ...but the relationship is already broken and maybe for ever.. because I find it difficult to fully trust that person ever again. I can give people the second chance (it depends of the incident and the severity of the pain that someone has done). but I've never given the third chance !
it depends on what has been done and by whom, I mean how that person is close to me ...we know that nobody is perfect and the life is chort but we can not forget easily !
How can you ask for God forgiveness if you cannot forgive yourself? It's quite difficult to forget but you must forgive to be able to forget...
for me i forgive anyone easily i don't know if this is good or bad habit but i swear whenever someone hurts me i say that i won't forgive him/her but after a while i say '' loussami7 karim ''
When I'm upset because of someone's bad behaviour, and in order to seek may forgiveness, he has simply to invite for a couple of beers and I just let it go !! PS : Teacher Casawia, take your red pen and follow me
you keep a record no! you know things happen, so of course we hurt each other. however, if you are a good friend such a thing doesn't happen frequently. so with time you forget. but if he keep doing it many times that's a proof that he careless for your feeling. in this case i can't forget, and with few more mistakes and i ll not forgive!!!!
L9ant: I can see that it's not very hard to make up with you @alexander: yes i keep a record of everyone who hurted my feelings in fact, it's easier said than done. as far as i am concerned, if someone happens to hurt me badly and on purpose, then i won't forgive and neither forget. however, if it's a misunderstanding I could let it go but i'll try to make sure that it won't happen again.
Forgiveness does NOT mean forget .. Forgive and forget is generally an unrealistic ideal. I will sexplain <D why : our memories are not selective : we can not select what to remembre and we can forget ... We remember all sorts of things, particularly those that caused strong emotional reactions in us. You will not forget what happened, especially if it was severe, it still hold somewhere in our heart but we can let it go , move it to the past and keep going !
It's all depending on the situation, or the error one has done!! There are "pains" we can bear, forgive and even forget, others not ...! Sometimes we can forgive, but have hard time to forget, and sometimes we cannot even forgive. But i think the latter case is rare!!
i can say that i forgive and forget easily things that hurted me , but sometimes this pain is stronger that we can forgive, so, i need that things be explained to help myself to forget in the end!! <(
Once it's broken, it can never fully heal again. That's me. I never forgive COMPLETELY. The slightest act of that person can be reminiscent. And that's bad.
hi everybody; to err is human, to forgive is divine : is a good subject of meditation; like manypeople, I can say that I may forgive but never forget, but can we call this forgiveness? sincerly,I don't think for me to forgive include to forget = considerate this error like never been [65h] so I find that is too hard to forgive, Best wishes